I'm Kitten, a Neutral Good pansexual poly pagan geek mom living in Seattle, actively searching for new ideas and new connections. I'm a strange mix of experienced and n00b when it comes to poly; I've been actively living the poly lifestyle since 1997, but have lived in mostly small towns, and have kindof stumbled into partners by accident. I have never experienced a poly community...until very recently. This has opened up a whole new world to me, as well as new pitfalls that I'd never been aware of. Join me as I chronicle my journey into this incredibly rewarding lifestyle.
Note: Nicknames or initials will always be used in this blog. If you think you know who I'm referring to, DO NOT call them out by name or use identifying characteristics.
"A slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you." -Dossie Easton
I just answered a question very similar to this; check out what I said to that one.
Bottom line: communicate, communicate, communicate. Educate yourself, do some reading, talk to others in the lifestyle, and talk honestly and openly with your partner.
One truism: going poly will NOT fix issues you might already have in the relationship. It will actually bring any underlying problems out into the open…so read, educate, communicate to find those issues before actually starting to date others, or you will have a very bumpy start.
Good luck! And don’t hesitate to ask any further questions.