I'm Kitten, a Neutral Good pansexual poly pagan geek mom living in Seattle, actively searching for new ideas and new connections. I'm a strange mix of experienced and n00b when it comes to poly; I've been actively living the poly lifestyle since 1997, but have lived in mostly small towns, and have kindof stumbled into partners by accident. I have never experienced a poly community...until very recently. This has opened up a whole new world to me, as well as new pitfalls that I'd never been aware of. Join me as I chronicle my journey into this incredibly rewarding lifestyle.
Note: Nicknames or initials will always be used in this blog. If you think you know who I'm referring to, DO NOT call them out by name or use identifying characteristics.
"A slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you." -Dossie Easton
The Guardian ad Litem found that all of my ex’s allegations were completely unfounded, and that I’m a more than adequate, loving mother. However (and I wasn’t entirely expecting this to count so much), they are a two-parent household, and I was not. So, while I ended up with more time with my son that I was previously getting, I did not get the 50-50 shared custody I was asking for. It’s been a long, heartbreaking road, and I strongly suggest that anyone in a poly relationship with children have written relationship agreements with their partner describing what happens with the children should you separate. Even better if it’s a legal document, drawn up by a lawyer, signed and filed. It protects both partners from any machinations by the other. I hope you never have to deal with anything close to what I had to…but I’ve heard enough horror stories at this point that I say you can never be too careful.