May 2011
26 posts
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Shattering the final illusion
I’ve just learned that my ex, the husband in my recent triad, was lying about me right from the beginning.
He told someone that I was the one to tell him that I loved him first, and that he felt put on the spot, and that he only said it because he didn’t know what else to do. He told this person this information just a few days after it happened. And this person knows enough of the...
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Beautifully written story about a quad in... →
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Healing
I went to a poly event yesterday, and saw my ex, the husband in my recent triad, for the first time since the breakup about a month ago.
I heard him before I saw him, and I instantly went tight and tense inside. I was surrounded by friends, was snuggled tightly, but even in the midst of all that care and support, I felt alone, caught in a howling storm of emptiness.
And then the world hiccupped,...
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Glowing
I just got the below email from my husband while I was out with a friend. This is just one of the many, many reasons I adore him. After six years together, we’re still giddy about each other. It’s AWESOME.
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“I know you’re in a movie right now…but just wanted to tell you just how much I love you, need...
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ch-urchmouth asked: Why are triads so hard?
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ch-urchmouth asked: Thanks for answering my question. :)
I am very interested in a poly lifestyle, myself. I love this page and the information you share. Thank you!
I am very interested in a poly lifestyle, myself. I love this page and the information you share. Thank you!
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ch-urchmouth asked: What does your family look like at the moment?
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Conflict resolution...and another guest post!
So last night, Drake and I had a conflict in front of Jewel for the first time.
It was a fairly heated discussion…for us.
You see, Drake and I don’t really “fight.” We debate, discuss, and maybe get frustrated with each other, but we never raise our voices, and we never, ever let it get to the point where we’re saying hurtful things. If emotions are starting to...
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Poly in Pictures: Home Early →
This is just one of the many things I love about being poly.
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Guest post from the metamour
In an earlier post, I mentioned that Drake’s partner Jewel was going to be moving in with us when we move over to Seattle in about a month. It suddenly occurred to me last week…why wait?
See, Jewel is currently unemployed. She’s been job-hunting, but has suspended her job search until we know where we’re going to be living. So she has no real obligations in Seattle right...
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gloomcookie613 asked: I can't believe I didn't follow you right away. My stalking skills are rusty! ;) And so it's a question:
Forgive me for taking so long to follow?
Forgive me for taking so long to follow?
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Adopted 'survivor' thriving with three parents →
Interesting. This child has three legal parents. Polys, take note.
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I'm not perfect
I am a flawed human being. I have never represented myself as anything other than that.
I make mistakes, I screw up, I say or do things that hurt and upset others. None of this is a surprise to anyone else out there, I’m sure. We all do it.
But I am constantly striving to improve. Whenever I do mess up, I try to look at it as objectively as possible, get outside input on what I did wrong,...
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thedrinkinggeek asked: You know I am curious about poly. But I have issues with just trying to get a regular gf. I seem to fall very hard for people. and then am extremely disappointed when it is not returned. Is that an issue with poly? Should I even think about this kind of relationship with so little experience in general, like standard relationships?......I may or may not be confused :P
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WAY cool story about parents who are refusing to... →
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thedrinkinggeek asked: guess whos following you here now too :P
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Grammatical pet peeves
Some common grammatical errors that bug the heck out of me…
Your and You’re
“Your” = something that belongs to you, shows possession.
“You’re” = you are.
There, Their and They’re
“There” = shows placement, e.g. something over there.
“Their” = something that belongs to them, shows possession.
“They’re”...
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Comments!
Finally figured out why comments weren’t working. Oops! The problem is now fixed, so feel free to comment away. Just please read the commenting rules first. I’ll wait.
♪ Jeopardy theme song ♪
Did anyone else hear that? No? K, just checking.
Read ‘em? Good! Fire away.
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Heartache in poly
As I’ve learned recently, heartache isn’t lessened one tiny bit just because you have other partners. I am hurting just as much over my recent breakup as I would be if I didn’t have Drake.
I was surprised by that. For some reason, I thought that having the love and support of my husband, who adores me, would help alleviate the pain of the loss of my triad. Nothing could be...
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My road to poly had some potholes
A Twitter friend asked me today, “Did you and your hubs agree on your lifestyle before or after marriage/child?” Answering her question gave me the idea for this post.
Everyone’s road to the poly lifestyle is different. Some people have always known they were non-monogamous, others discovered it later, while already in a monogamous relationship.
I’m pansexual, and...
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“Never stand begging for that which you have the power to earn.”
~Miguel...”
– This is my favorite quote of all time, and I’ve taken it as my personal motto in life. I am constantly striving to embody this; I may not always succeed, but I never stop trying.
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Obligatory introductory post
Hang on…lemme chain the doors shut.
There! I love a captive audience.
I’m in my mid-thirties, am married, have a young child, and have been practicing the poly lifestyle since 1997. However, I’ve lived in mostly small towns, and was never really aware that there was a larger poly community until very recently.
All of my poly relationships up until that discovery were either...
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